How to treat multicultural people! Day 76
Sep 22, 2018
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welcome to Friday yes my hubby is
holding my phone because my phone holder
is I don't know needing to be fired and
I got to find that new one anyways yes I
am just not checking in with you guys
because so all he was gone earlier and
so I let the kids just and now we are
gonna run a couple of errands before
Jeremiah gets out of school and before
traffic gets nuts because it's Friday
Friday Friday Friday anyways I hope you
guys are having a wonderful Friday and
I'm not gonna keep you guys on while I'm
vlogging and drive me because you guys
are gonna be bumped everywhere so
anyways I just hope you guys are having
a great start to your weekend and I will
check in with you in a little bit and
see what we're up to it anyways I got my
results back for my blood work and it's
showing a burn a burn elytis I'm saying
that completely probably wrong I'm
probably butchering the word on my
thyroid so that is absolutely well it's
a shock in the sense that I'm getting it
but thyroidism type stuff whereas really
bad on my dad's side of the family
and pretty much my entire family is on
some type of thyroid medicine I have one
cousin that actually had to go in and
have her thyroid cut out no no no no she
did not she went through like a chemo
thing I don't remember exactly something
because her thyroid was so bad but
pretty much everybody on my dad side the
family
besides him when he had passed he hadn't
been on anything but everybody else has
been on some type of thyroid medicine so
good times good times
but anyways other than that he said
everything came out looking good all my
other blood work came out good um my
urine test came out good of course he
did a pregnancy test which I've seen
that this morning when I was looking at
my prayer my records and I'm like
pregnancy test I told him I was not
pregnant but he ran one anyways and of
course it was negative so so we know
that's a negative but everything else
was good so that was good I'm filling in
this situation because I just totally I
mean he even said it over the phone he's
just like you know I'm just gonna tell
you again how proud I am that you are
really taking your health serious this
time and that you're really putting
efforts and I can definitely see it on
all of the different charts you know
things are starting to come back into
normal range that weren't normal for a
long time and you know and with this
thyroid thing that could be I mean
somebody that's 90 pounds could have a
thyroid issue so that's not a weight
induced thing this is something totally
different so he's like he said don't
make you know don't feel like that's
something that you made happen because
of being overweight or whatever because
he said that has nothing to do with it
so anyways that was good and yeah so we
just went and picked up a car dropped it
at another location and now I am tip
typically I can't even talk I currently
sitting in my room trying to find energy
to get up and go start making my kids
always okay there we go good so I just
love my kids dinner because they were in
there snacking like horses I swear they
act like they never eat but go ahead and
food
and I had a sub sandwich for lunch I had
Ollie bring me home one cuz I was so
hungry like literally a starving and so
I had him stop and give me that and yeah
so it's just been kind of a low-key day
today I am gonna do my exercising
tonight but I'm just gonna be doing my
in-house workout for now I'm not gonna
do the walking outside until further
notice cuz I don't want to I don't want
to create any more problems than what I
already have with my body
and then oh I did get my physical
therapy set up so I have that scheduled
for October 15th I go in for my first
scheduled physical therapy so we'll see
we'll see what they do I mean and you
know like I told Holly today I was like
what's the worst thing okay so even if
my knee is not hurting me at that point
it's exercise it's pure exercise with
somebody watching over me so why why not
do it and I'm you know my medical is
covering it so why wouldn't I
I'm gonna do it it's just more exercise
so enough being a lazy butt get up and
do things that I need to get done to
help myself oh my gosh so I have had a
very productive afternoon oh I did not
record it because right now I am
literally like being able to only wear
like loose clothing and so I pretty much
wore a Jama t-shirt pretty much since
I've been home my pharmacy did not get
my medicine done until almost 7 o'clock
tonight good times so that means I have
not been able to get the medicine on my
skin I feel like
my skin is literally deteriorating off
of my body it hurts so bad you guys I
wouldn't I could never imagine this to
be on anybody it literally feels like I
am sitting in a pool of acid like
literally I am sitting here trying of
all paints to not even cry because it
hurts so bad so bad and I couldn't
hardly even eat dinner tonight because I
just am in so much pain like nothing is
nothing is doing it so I did get I went
through all of my clothes today anyways
other than being a referee to my
children um take your shirt off and I'll
put jammies on you
so anyways okay I went through all this
stuff and there was a few things that I
was getting rid of but not really that
much but it was kind of exciting because
when come here honey when I was going
through the clothes so I have got I got
remember this shirt I told you guys that
I got from women within well it's a tank
top so okay pull down and I have a
couple of the same exact tank top but I
have them in for X so they're sure for
some reason I don't know why but they're
just short so anyway so I got a 6 X and
I put it on today and I was just like
holy cow it was it had some definite
room in it I was like oh I like that
okay sit down and take your pants off
and so anyways I think that made me feel
really good but but I also like it
because it's extra long and I love my
shirts extra long because they like to
cover the junk in the front and I like
to cover my boot a so I always tend to
go for the bigger clothes no matter what
and I always will I think that's always
just gonna be a thing for me
so anyway so I went through that and
folded all my laundry again hot laundry
caught up gosh that's that's a word in
itself caught up
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and then I know that a couple people had
asked for me to see if I would do like a
workout clothing ho right now honestly I
don't have like an actual like clothing
line that I use just for my workout just
cuz I'm not in a place yet for that so
what I am doing is come here honey what
I'm doing is just putting on just
whirring hold on honey you're putting
your arm your head in your arm boom no
anyway so it was a great feeling to be
able to find something that was like
actually fitting me kind of big when the
other well another time I ordered 6x
from them and it was a little bit tight
so it was nice I was like oh my gosh
like I noticed something was a little
bit different that was a good feeling
and then after that I just cleaned up
this room a little bit and then after
that I'm just
I literally have been just sitting and
doing computer work and printing some
things off I didn't even work on my
wreath today I'm hoping that this pain
will kind of subside so I can kind of
get back to life because literally I
can't continue this like it is so bad
it literally is stopping me from being
able to do anything because I don't want
to move because every time I move it
hurts so with that I did not do with
that I did not clearly do exercise
tonight either I didn't yesterday but
that was because of my shot or my blood
work tonight I just I can't because I'm
in so much pain like I can't do it I
think I'd probably fall over and pass
out from the pain
so I'm just gonna take it easy tonight
all he said just don't don't push
yourself in that matter because my skin
is actually bleeding tonight so my
skin's really getting raw so he said
don't just just don't do it tonight
but I feel so guilty because I'm just
like I want to work out like that is my
motivation I love working out now but I
also don't want to do something that's
gonna cause harm
you know if I'm to do it and then it
hurts me or something so I went ahead
and I decided not to work out tonight
but I still got up and I still moved
around whether I heard or not I still
push to do some things but I just did it
at a very slow pace and then after my
closing I'm gonna go take a shower and
wash my hair and just clean my skin my
doctor's show it told me what to use to
like kind of it's gonna hurt so bad but
to kind of scrape it a little bit and
that way then when I put the medicine on
then it's the steroid that will get in
and really help so Oh I'm hoping by
tomorrow morning I start feeling better
because I'm gonna start this stuff
tonight like I have to ease up
so anyways with that I just I haven't
done a whole whole lot just because I
don't want to move cuz it hurts
um but I know I'm so over this stuff but
I'm glad that I did get the results back
and we now know that there's something
up with my thyroid so there's an answer
there to why I'm so tired is probably
because something's off with my thyroid
so hopefully we'll get that straightened
out as soon because I can't stand this
being tired all the time like this is
driving me absolutely bonkers itself
um but anyways in two ways uh tomorrow
is saturday and it's actually supposed
to rain here so I probably won't be
doing a whole lot outside but we'll see
and we'll just see how I'm feeling
because literally I just I don't really
want to do anything because to move it
hurts so we'll see
I might just kind of have a down day
tomorrow and just take it slow but I say
that all the time in the night
I never take it slow I go and do
something so we'll see because tomorrow
is my mommy time so so we'll see pretty
excited we'll do my way in then I'll go
and do something for myself so I don't
know just what I want to do yet so many
decisions earlier today actually I was
talking with one of the subs and I don't
know we were having a conversation about
how like where she lives that her like
her community I don't know if it's the
community or if it's the state I don't
know if it you know which one it is but
anyways we're talking and it kind of
liked it it brought attention to
something that I was thinking about the
other day and she was talking about how
in her state I believe that they have to
do a lot of adjustments for the Muslim
families you know to like I guess to
like make them not feel left out so like
for her children's sake you know they
can't they can't celebrate celebrations
at school and they can't bring you know
like cupcakes for their birthdays and
even the children's lunches have changed
you know because they don't provide pork
for anybody in the school so like
pepperoni pizza and stuff is out and
Janos listen eat or talk and you don't
even it's so true it really is and I see
her frustration I do I get it a hundred
percent and you know and she was like
you know I just I don't want you to take
offense to it I was like no no no I mean
I fully understand like for me I get it
I mean I the celebration of birthdays I
didn't really understand because I mean
we celebrate birthdays here I mean and I
know you know our feeling so Muslim and
you know my kids take cupcakes to school
so well my child my kids but Jeremiah
has taken cupcakes to school for his
celebrations and so
that was kind of weighted so I don't
know but now see they've changed a lot
of regulations now but not due to
religion stuff but because there's a lot
of children that have like peanut
allergies and there was one child that
had like a fruit allergy or something so
like if you bring something it had to be
a certain type of thing it couldn't have
a gluten I think it was gluten yeah it
was
she had gluten allergies so you have to
bring you know when you brought things
that had to have be free for snacks it
couldn't be like anything with peanuts
in it for another class so you know and
I understand those things those things
are just an on an unplanned event that
happens you know but you know I could
understand her frustration in the sense
that you know when she grew up those
things were happening when I grew up I
mean I remember you know dressing up for
Halloween and going for you know the
class at a certain time like was like 2
o'clock in the afternoon we all got to
put our costumes on and go from class to
class or have parties in our class or
something I remember something like that
but I do remember vaguely being able to
dress up and when it was like Christmas
time we'd have like a holiday like a
Christmas party type thing and you know
and those things have changed even here
like we don't
Jeremiah doesn't their school doesn't do
dressing up for or any type of thing
like that and when it comes to Christmas
they do like a winter program I think
it's called
and like a winter party I want to say
but it's not nothing to do with like
Christmas or anything like that um but I
can understand the frustration there
with her that you know she feels kind of
like her children have missed out on
things that she was able to be able to
support you know to celebrate in classes
in school due to because of their
schools making it more equivalent to
everybody and making it fair to
everybody because it's our country is
such a multi-cultured and religions
country that to be careful to to here
here to be careful to allow the children
not to feel left out and so
you know was talking to me about that
and people another thing that she was
talking about was that right there honey
here take it I don't know what you're
wanting swear I can never have anything
without anyways um that she lives in a
big Somalian community there's a lot of
smoly ins there and she feels you know
like when she smiles and stuff that
they're very mean muggy I'm like
and when I say mean muggin I don't mean
that kind of Java toward away I mean
they just are very stern looking and you
know I told her I said you know it's
kind of funny that you bring that up
I said not funny in a sense of your
experience what that you know I said but
I actually had just made this comment
not too long ago to my husband and I
just remember you know I had smiled at
some Somalian ladies and they just kind
of looked at me and just like there was
no life on the face there was no smile
and to me I'm used to you smile you guys
smile back usually unless the person's
having a rough day then we know just
leave it alone
but I've always grown up you smile when
you pass somebody you you know you just
make gesture to them just just just give
a smile maybe that smile will change
someone's life you don't know so you
always take every opportunity to share a
little bit of kindness anywhere you go
at least that's what I was talkin that's
what I teach my children well anyways so
I had brought that up to Ollie I was
like gosh you know I I smile and they
just don't ever smile back or they just
like no friendly and he was like oh
honey's like you know no I'm sure it's
something you know it's not anything
that's you know against you or whatever
I mean you just don't really know so
anyways about a week and a half later I
came in contact with another small young
lady and this time I you know was being
kind as I always am and she just was
very I kind of took it like
I guess you would say just kind of like
brushed off ish if that means if that
makes any sense like when I smiled you
know she kind of did the same thing just
like a like a glare stare you know and I
was like okay you know I mean that's
fine whatever and then we got talking
and so as we were talking you know I had
asked her one day I was like you know I
said I'm just really curious I said um I
noticed like and I said nope I don't
want to say it's just Somalian people
you know in general but I said but I
noticed a lot of times when I share a
smile or you know something I said I
never seem to get one in return and she
said you know she said eating let me let
me give you a little bit insight she
said I was the same way obviously and
she's like when I when I very first came
into the country she said you know it
life is life is so bad bad in Somalia
she's like you know we don't get fresh
water unless we walk miles upon miles
and we carry it back on our backs
when we go somewhere we watch our
shoulders we can't just walk and feel
free you know cuz we don't know if
someone's gonna come up behind us and
take everything that we have that were
carrying on our back and she said you
know food food doesn't come very easily
and so as she was sharing these stories
with me and you know the struggles and
stuff that you know not just her but
majority of all the Somalis have seen
she's like life is so hard that when we
come here we don't know what kindness is
we don't know how to inner entertain
that because we don't get that there and
as I listen to her I just my heart broke
because I was just like wow like I had
no idea I didn't know yeah I didn't know
it's just like you know we're all
learning how to interact with with
kindness
okay that's it that's wrong you know
she's like we're learning how to
interact with the kindness we're
learning how to become friends and to be
friendly back you know I mean she said
it's not that we're mean but we don't
know how to interact we don't know what
being kind really is because we've
always had to watch our shoulders from
side to side and you know and I just it
really it really spoke to me that you
know sometimes and that outtakes from
being a Somalian or anything you never
know what a person is going through what
they have gone through what they've seen
in their life so just because somebody
doesn't give you a happy face back it
clearly doesn't mean that they don't
care it clearly doesn't mean that they
don't know or that they don't see you or
they don't recognize what you're doing
sometimes people are so hurt from past
experiences that they can't they can't
smile their body doesn't allow them to
smile because they don't know what
smiling is and it just I really you know
so much of my insight has changed in
that because you know like I said it
doesn't even have to do with one you
know one race or one culture but it in
reality it's so many people in this
world because you know now these days
you walk by and you could smell somebody
and they can turn and attack you and you
would just be like you know I mean I've
had situations where I've went and I've
offered food to a homeless person
standing on the side of the road and
they just blew up on me like you know
what do you think you're doing giving me
food and I'm like well you're standing
here with a sign saying you're hungry
and you know anything will help I went
and I
bought you a whole mil I thought that
would be helpful well it's not gonna
give me anything and like freaked out
and I left the food there because I know
in the end that the person would they
would eat it because you know they're
they're hungry but seen extended hand
giving them something sometimes can be
probably pretty scary because most times
when you offer something you're gonna
want something in return and clearly
that's not my case like when I offer
something I offer it you know and it
just seriously broke my heart when I
really sat back and thought about all
the instance all that the times that I
thought someone was just being rude and
being unkind or being cold or whatever
and in reality it probably had nothing
to do with that it probably all had to
do with something totally different
but I didn't see that until my friend
opened my eyes and told me the stories
that happened back there and she wasn't
telling me as in making excuses for any
type of a behavior issue or or you know
excusing their you know their behavior
or whatever like she that wasn't what
she was doing but what she was doing was
opening my eyes to realize that
everybody is on different levels in
their life and some people are more
compassionate than others some have you
know some have never been in a position
where they've had compassion compassion
towards each other you know when you're
having to walk miles to just get fresh
water and you've got people that come up
and mug you for it hello you know
nobody's gonna walk around with smiles
on their face because they're always
gonna be on red alert that something's
gonna happen and that's what when they
come here they don't know any different
so when they see a smile they may feel
threatened you know because they don't
know
any different and about you know
adjusting to different cultures you know
I just feel like I guess I you know I I
completely understand the conversation
that I had with my sub because I get it
I understand it I do and I see the
difference and I see the changes in the
world desk happened over the years but I
think because you know I've had hold on
me
I think because I've been friends with
you know with people that were Jehovah
Witness you know and I remember a little
girl she was my friend I think I say I
was like in second grade and she was
Jehovah Witness and okay you need to
wait a minute and she was Jehovah
Witness and so they don't believe in
saying the Pledge of Allegiance and I
don't know why I don't know if it's
because of the word god I don't really
know I honestly have never done really
much research about Jehovah Witness but
I do remember her going out and sitting
in the hallway when we would do the
Pledge of Allegiance and about I'll say
about six years later then I noticed
that they pretty much winged the pledge
allegiance out of the school and that
was a big controversy because I know
that there's a lot of parents and
there's a lot of people that still have
a lot of issues a big culture about
culture a big controversy and I know it
still is and I don't want to get into
like politican politics and all of that
stuff like that's not nearly where I'm
trying to go with this but I do know
that a lot of people have issues because
the children don't say the Pledge of
Allegiance anymore and I do know that
it's an importance to have the children
know you know the the pledge of
allegiance to their flag and I know that
I think I'm pretty sure every country
has an allegiance to their flag I think
I could be wrong you can correct me if I
am and I I do embrace that and I wish
that they still did that to this
I still believe that they should I don't
see that there's anything wrong in that
and it's so sad that it has brought such
tension between people because of it but
I just wanted to state that you know
please understand that if you notice
somebody that's being kind of short or
unkind or not not extending the smile
back or not reacting the way that you
thought that they would react don't take
it personal
you know don't please don't take it
personal and don't take it as you know
they're rude or they're mean or you know
they're stuck-up or something because
honestly probably 95% of the time it has
nothing to do with that so many people
in this world these days suffer from so
much so much and the sad thing is is the
world is just getting worse and so
because of that people are gonna be
embracing so many more trauma filled
experiences that could possibly bring
them down deeper than they have ever
been before and as all the long as we
are all there that understand that and
can extend that helping hand and that
continued to extend your smile and your
friendly hellos just that might change
somebody's life forever
maybe that smile might save somebody and
let them know that there's still love in
the world you don't know so for me I
always it doesn't matter if I get the
rudest glare back from anybody
I always just smile just smile what's
the smile gonna do it's not going to
hurt anybody it's not gonna break
anybody but that smile might change
somebody's life so I always always
extend a smile and I tell my children to
do the same thing whenever you see
somebody you smile if you don't know
what to say
smile because that smile could change
everything and it could be a complete
game-changer and my smile caused me to
gain a friendship
that eventually changed my view on so
much she was able to give me insight
into why in her situation the samolians
because that's what we were talking
about why a lot of times you get those
faces I've just just despair almost
because they don't know anything else
they don't know how to extend back it
doesn't always come easily for everybody
and if you seen half of the things that
probably they've seen or have endured
maybe you wouldn't be a smile or either
maybe you wouldn't be a Hello person
maybe you wouldn't be you just don't
know how you would react because you've
never been in a position yet and
hopefully nobody has to be put in that
position I wish I could pick up
everybody in this entire world and save
them all but I can't but does it break
my heart to see these people hurting of
course it does I hate seeing homeless
people laying on the ground I hate
seeing people hurting in their countries
I hate it that's why I don't why that's
why I don't watch the news because I
can't handle it because halfway through
the news I'll be I'll be bawling because
I can't deal with it I can't stand
seeing people suffering and so to know
that I can possibly help somebody just
to feel loved one second oh you better
believe I'm jumping on that train and
I'll do it over and over it's the best
thing I can do so anywho as now I've
talked your guyses ear off for lots of
lots of lots of minutes I hope you guys
had a wonderful day today and a great
start to your wonderful weekend that is
ahead of you guys don't know what all
you view rises weathers endure but mom's
gonna be probably gray me and the first
part of the morning I give mommy time so
I'm gonna take advantage but anyways I
hope you guys enjoyed my
my storyline today and as always I hope
you guys have a wonderful evening
I will see you guys in the morning take
care sweet dreams
bye bye
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